How to Hug a Porcupine by Dr. Debbie Joffe Ellis

When this book came to me while walking in Barnes and Noble yesterday, I immediately knew I needed to read it. Not only because I needed more coping tools for porcupines out there but lately I have recognized the many ways in which I defensively put up my quills. This is a really easy read that is based on the work of Dr. Albert Ellis, a pioneer in rational emotive behavior therapy, who said that no one can upset us unless we allow them to.

The book also has this fantastic quote that I think if more people truly integrated and understood it would make their lives much easier:

"A relationship that requires effort on the part of only one party is not a true relationship."


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