My thoughts on some women's issues.

This is an article I wrote for a friend's website. Her website is to every topic what the "Truth" campaign is to smoking. Voila...

MAKING THE SHIFT

As a woman, I am very passionate about the topic of women’s health. Especially after I married my husband- a chef and health educator devoted to people’s health and vitality. He inspires me to always ask questions and dig deep to find truths. Admittedly, my way of life was not always based on the principles of a sound mind and sound body. I haphazardly allowed external influences to manipulate my thinking, basically leaving my health and my womanhood in the hands of society and others. It is only now- after many years of acquiring wisdom, insight from within and and making many lifestyle changes- that it has become clear how dangerous it is, especially for women, to leave the responsibility for their well being in the hands of others. Women are delicate. That is not to say we are weak for within the intricacies of our minds and the systems of our astral and causal bodies lies strength beyond what most of us have experienced. Each woman in the world is a reflection of Gaia Ma, the divine Earth Mother. Therefore we should treat ourselves and each other as such. It is a danger to our lives- as it is to all of life itself- to continue looking to others for how to navigate our health and our whole lives. If you look around you, the skinny sexy bombshell image is being shoved down our throats by a long-standing patriarchy. According to society, it is not okay to have women represent each and every point of a wide spectrum of the true meaning of beauty. In society, that wide spectrum is whittled down to one very small point on the spectrum- size 2, tall, long legs, perfectly coiffed long shiny voluminous hair, big boobs, a tight round toosh, hairless armpits that magically smell like flowers, legs and nether regions, flat sculpted abs, perfectly smooth velvety skin and big pouty pink or red lips. This has left no room for individuality and originality.

This has also left many women feeling short-changed and depressed. Say you were born a big-boned size 12, how could you ever compete with a Victoria’s Secret model or even make an attempt to look like one? The truth is, we don’t have to. Regardless of what many men and society would have us believe, beauty is a reflection of what is going on inside each person.

A very long time ago, a “plus-sized” older friend of mine looked me deeply in the eyes and said to me, “I DARE you to love your body and your self as you are NOW.” I had been complaining about my body and this was her response. I thought she was being preachy and hokey, but those words stayed with me and are still ringing in my ears now- 15 years later. Eventually, I turned to plastic surgery to try to fix the complexes and conflicts within. If you look around, you will see that many people have turned to the quick fix that plastic surgery delivers. But as I, and many others have and will find, it is a polish that eventually- if not quickly- loses its luster. I say, instead of looking to fix things physically, let us women go inside and tune back in to our intuition and divine insights. Only this way will we truly find lasting joy- not fleeting happiness- and true mental, physical and emotional health.

THE TRUTHS SHALL SET YOU FREE

Did you know that deodorants and anti-perspirants are very dangerous to your health? Most of them have large amounts of aluminum which is very detrimental to any human body. When it comes to health, I recommend going as natural as possible. I know it’s an inconvenience, but we were born with sweat glands in our armpits. That is our nature. When we fight nature (nature is easy), we come upon illness (dis-ease). So, we may have to sweat a little. Is it worth smearing toxic chemicals into your armpits every day thereby compromising the health of the lymph and other glands around your breasts? I personally don’t think so. I stopped using any mainstream deodorants a long time ago (Secret, Degree, etc) and opted for Tom’s or the natural crystal deodorants. Today, I don’t use any at all unless I know I am going to sweat profusely during a workout or spending a lot of time outside on a very hot day. How have I completely forsaken deodorants and anti-perspirants? Well, here’s the true “secret”. After only a few months of detoxing from the nasty chemical stuff (i.e. not using it even once so as to not shrink the lymph nodes, thereby allowing your body to get rid of toxins), your body odor is no longer offensive. But you must be patient and not expect to not smell in just a few days. It will take some time. It also depends on how clean your diet is. The cleaner it is, the quicker your body will come back to its natural odor without that daily dose of heavy toxic aluminums.

This next one isn’t so easy.

Bras. Every woman needs to wear one, right?

Wrong.

Have you ever heard of an indigenous woman with breast cancer? No, of course not. Because they let the girls hang out all day, free of any kind of constriction. And this is the idea I am shooting for. If you are large breasted and can’t get away with not wearing a bra or just don’t want your nipples to show, you can buy bras that go from little to maximum support that do not have underwires. Underwires seriously hinder lymphatic flow and your lymph lines are your life lines!

Beyond that, however, let’s look at the real purpose of bras. Beyond support for large breasts, they have NO PURPOSE. Victoria’s secret is that most women don’t need to wear bras. And those that need or want to, can definitely do it without spending $50+ on them. That’s her other dirty little secret. If you really look at it, lingerie is a billion dollar industry based on fake societal standards that continue to render women powerless. Super padded double push up lacey very sexy bras... you pay a lot out of your pocket for each of those adjectives and the simple truth is, those frills are hurting women. What is sexy about looking like every other woman? And look at the breast cancer rate in women today. One in every three women. Illnesses aren’t random occurrences. They have a cause. Even the smallest amount of research will unearth a whole lot of truth.

SOME INFORMATION TO CHEW ON

I had the pleasure to meet Daniel Vitalis- an amazing health educator and owner of Surthrival health supplements- when he was in Miami and we spoke about many topics. One of the things he touched upon was the issue of breast cancer and what could be done to avoid it. I had heard this before in a landmark talk he gave at a public library in Portland, Maine and I would like to share it with you. It is eye-opening, very thought-provoking and helped me form some more conclusions of my own to make better health decisions.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CHkgJX_ew24&feature=related

(The above link is only part 1 of his talk... parts 2-6 are also on You Tube and can be found to the right of the video of part 1. You can also go to www.templeoftheelemental.com and get the full 60 minute video if you enter your email address.)

SOME MORE THINGS TO THINK ABOUT

On the topic of women’s wellness, I would like to say a word about KFC. Yes, THAT KFC. The one with the “double down” sandwich- two greasy “chicken” breasts with “bacon” and melted pepper-jack “cheese” in the middle. Susan G. Komen, the leading breast cancer foundation for women, has teamed up with KFC to donate some cents on each dollar for every bucket of “chicken” sold. All that money on research, and the Susan G. Komen foundation has not yet made the connection that what you eat directly affects your health? The hormones in the “chicken” of KFC and other fast food places (and any “chicken” that isn’t grass fed and pasture raised for that matter) is full of hormones and other incredibly gnarly things that can add up to become serious illnesses including breast cancer. Does anyone understand this partnership between Susan G. Komen and KFC? Does anyone understand why it seems like companies and such WANT to make and keep people ill? This is a question that demands some kind of response.

PREVENTION

What I’m sure we all can understand is that prevention is essential. I mentioned breast cancer because it is a very serious disease among today’s women, but I believe prevention of any dis-ease is something we can all get behind. Treating any illness is very difficult and unfortunately usually not effective unless you get deep into the root cause. Let us not get sick so that we don’t have to scramble to figure out how to undo something. So that we don’t have to depend on pharmaceutical companies and allopathic doctors who don’t necessarily have our health in mind to solve the problem. We are all- EVERY ONE OF US- capable of taking care of our health through diet (clean food and water), exercise (at least 20 minutes every day), seeking knowledge and- when something perhaps gets a bit too overwhelming for our self to handle- seeking a responsible and knowledgeable health practitioner with a respect for not only our physical body but our emotional and spiritual bodies as well.

Let’s leave behind the images we have been fed of what a woman is supposed to look like. DARE TO LOVE YOUR SELF AND YOUR BODY.

NOW.

AS IT IS.

Not when you lose 10 lbs. Not when you break up with your boyfriend. Not when you get that new triple boost mascara.

The time is now.