My daughter, like every child, is brutally honest. She's only a year old and she'll be very clear if she wants to be around you, if she wants a kiss from you, if she wants a hug, or if she doesn't. I'm re-learning how to be completely honest just like she is through her. When I was a kid, it was all about being polite at all costs and too bad if you're having a bad day, you're supposed to always be cheerful and smiley and say hello. Well, I don't buy into that. I never did, but sometimes I'd get yelled at or hit if I wasn't so I'd go along with it just to avoid trouble. Here's the thing. I don't want my child to be polite for any other reason than because she WANTS to be. I don't want her to have to say hello or goodbye to anyone she doesn't want to. The truth of the matter is, she's not going to like some people or some things and that's just the way it is. I honor her individuality and I honor her truth and that is that.
I'll admit I have been totally guilty of calling kids rude in the past because they haven't said hello to me or said something very honestly. But now that I have a child, I understand. It's not that I am going to let her run around all day kicking people in the shins and calling people ugly. Being mean is not the same as being honest. But I am just going to let her be, as long as it is respectful and not maliciously hurtful to anyone.
I feel this is bringing me back to my childlike behavior. I can now honor how I feel more than ever. If I don't want to spend time with someone, I don't. If I don't like someone, I don't pretend I do. If I am having a bad day, I HAVE MY BAD DAY. And it's all okay.
Sometimes I wish I had me for a mother. But, I guess most mommas do, right?